couple therapy
Do you find it difficult to sustain or maintain a happy and fulfilling relationship? Does your relationship constantly feel dramatic and distressed? Do you find you and your partner fighting over the same thing? Do you continually blame your partner and have a difficult time admitting your part? Do you feel defensive in relationship and don’t feel that your partner understands you? Do you want to feel appreciated and loved by your partner? Do you want to feel in love with your partner again?
HOW COUPLe THERAPY CAN HELP DEVELOP SAFETY AND SECURITY
Life can be messy, especially when combining two individual experiences and lives. As humans, we learn emotional maturity through the give-and-take process of being in relationship. But, often our personal growth is slowed if we reenact old behaviors and habits from our past, bringing them into present relationships. This pattern blocks emotional development which keeps us stuck and unable to move forward.
As a PACT (A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) trained therapist, I believe PACT therapy provides a therapeutic remedy for couples. PACT’s therapeutic approach is designed to alleviate the symptoms that come from an insecure, unfair, insensitive relationship that isn’t operating in a way that works for both partners. Through PACT, you learn a type of “relationship manual” that helps you pay close attention to one another’s nonverbal cues and understand how to regulate each other under distress. You and your partner will learn how to implement secure functioning and be a team where your relationship goes beyond living at home, but is home. A team that believes “What is good for you, is ultimately good for me!” Your relationship can thrive and be more secure, fair, rewarding, and satisfying!
PACT is an experiential based therapy that includes neuroscience, attachment theory, and somatic awareness. If you continually face similar patterns, no matter whom you are in relationship with, learning and practicing PACT principles can help you create a collaborative and cooperative foundation of shared power, equality, justice, sensitivity, and security in your relationship.
My husband and I met through a friend skiing in Colorado and I inherently knew he grounded me on a nonverbal level. The unexpected and invaluable relational lessons that I have learned from my husband’s secure and grounded nature, along with the richness of our relationship is what inspires me as a couples therapist. As a therapist, wife and mother, I strongly believe it is vital to seek and engage in my own self-growth and understand how I show up in relationship. My husband and I have experienced PACT offerings and continue to apply, practice, and benefit from PACT principles in our own marriage and parenthood. I hope PACT principles can provide opportunity and positive outcomes for you and your relationship.
What to expect from PACT couple therapy session?
PACT sessions may differ somewhat from what you would experience in other forms of couple therapy.
We will focus on moment-to-moment shifts in your face, body, and voice, and ask you to pay close attention to these as a couple.
We therapist will create experiences similar to those troubling your relationship and help you work through them in real time during the session.
PACT tends to require fewer sessions than do other forms of couple therapy.
PACT sessions often exceed the 50-min hour and may last as long as 3–6 hours. Longer times allow for the in-depth work of PACT.
We may videotape sessions to provide immediate feedback to you.